We need to establish what kind of response that we expect from our children in these situations, and then train them in it. An ideal response would be, "Yes, Mom," so let's aim for that.

 

To start off with we need to let our kids know that we mean business when we talk. Are you a person who allows their rubber arm to be twisted by nagging? Don't give in just to get peace and quiet! You are making a hole for yourself! OF COURSE your children will take advantage of you if you let them get their own way when they nag. They learn to survive but studying the cause and effect relationship they have with you. ("When I nag do I get what I want?")

 

To be consistent, you need to think before you answer. Is it really important to you to say 'No' to this request? If they push you, are you likely to give in? Then rather say 'Yes' first up! However, if you've thought about it and you've decided that 'No' is your final (and first!) answer, then say it with conviction and stick to it.

 

Train your kids by saying, "Mommy/Daddy said 'No'. When I say 'No' I expect you to say, 'Yes, Mom/Dad' You seem to have forgotten your words." (Of course, you are not saying this in a condescending or sarcastic manner. Your role as parent is to train, not to taunt and mock.)

 

Remember, consistency is everything when training young people! If you give in to one out of ten nagged requests, you can expect nagging in ten out of ten requests.

 

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